I have been fortunate enough in my life to have found safe and consensual ways to make my desires real physical events in the world. In fiction, O is simply taken. She slips into a black cab with her lover, and in that same cab ride, she is taken to a world of wonderfully torturous sexual experiences. She barely says a word. In the real world, however, accessing masochism, practising the harmonious balance called “sadomasochism,” in a loving and long-term relationship, involves a keen and transparent honesty, and steady contact and communication.
read Sleeping Beauty: the Story of O, an editorial that explores the isolation of being a young person with atypical desires, and how the Story of O became a source of comfort.